The power of choices

First things first. I guess it must be officiallly spring time since the time has come for us to "spring forward". We are now on Daylight Savings Time which means more daylight. YAY!!! For someone who loves to be outdoors and loves nice spring weather, I am thoroughly excited. I am through with winter weather. I like snow as much as the next person but I can only take it in small increments and after Christmas, I find it hard to tolerate cold weather. But I can complain all I want right because the weather will do what it wants. The rain or snow falls where it wants to. I just have to deal with it. And considering all turmoil and devastation going on in other parts of the world, a little bit of snow is pretty insignificant. And besides, even if I moved to a warmer weather state like Florida, I would have to deal with other issues I would find hard to take. I guess you will find negative things and minor annoyances wherever you end up. You just have to find a way to shut up and deal. So I will shut up and deal.

Let me move on to something else I really want to talk about. I want to talk about choices and how our choices affect everything about our lives. Our happiness or our misery, our success or our failure, and our good times or our bad times are all directly correlated to the choices we make. I have come to believe that our choices are the biggest factor in what our lives turn out to be. For example, if I wake up in the morning and I look at myself in the mirror telling myself today is going to be a good day, then it will be. Conversely, if I look in the mirror and tell myself today is going to suck because I am tired and sick and I have all this shit to do and blah blah blah, then it's going to suck. It's all a matter of perspective and our outlook that matters. I can choose what type of day I am going to have by my attitude. My choosing how to deal with things is my responsibility and mine alone. No one else can determine if my day is going to be a good one or not. Even if something bad happens or adversity strikes you, if you have the outlook that today is going to be a good day, then even those bad moments won't keep you down for long. It may knock you down for a moment but you rise above it and say oh well. I totally believe that life is exactly what you make it out to be. If you want it to be a miserable and rough ride, then it will be. If you want it to be a happy and content ride, then it will be. The choice is yours and yours alone. It is time we all realized that and took ownership of our lives. If we are walking along aimlessly and without direction or a sense of meaning and are just hoping on someone to come along and help us out or we are waiting for fate to intervene and save us from our misery, we will be waiting a while. I do believe in fate but I believe it only takes us so far. We have to make a conscious choice to go the rest of the way. We have to rescue ourselves from the darkness and step out into the light. Nobody else is going to come along and push you into the light and save you. That is totally up to you. You can spend the rest of your life living in misery and wallowing in self-pity, playing the poor and helpless victim. You can keep making excuses as to why your life isn't the way you want it but the inevitable truth is that the only reason your life is not the best it can be and why it is not full of happiness and joy is because you chose the path of misery and mediocrity. You settled for less than you deserve and less than you want by letting your fear overtake you. You chose that and it's all your fault. If you don't like your life and the way it is going, do something to change it or shut up about it. I know this from first hand experience. Life is what you make it and it will not change. You have to change. You have to change your perspective, your outlook and your attitude or nothing will ever change. You have to make it happen for yourself because no one else will and it is up to you to find happiness and success. You are the master of your own happiness. And your choices are the key to that. Every day you wake up and make choices. Whether you even consciously are aware of it or not, your life is full of choices and it is your choice whether you want to be happy or not. So as I sign off for today I am going to pose this question to you and to myself also: is today going to be a good day or is today going to be a bad day? That is something that YOU and only YOU can decide.

Until next time
Keep it real
Mel